Happy Wednesday!
This past Sunday, I attended the Elegant Bridal Expo with my future sister-in-law. We spent an entire afternoon chatting about wedding details, browsing bridal gowns, and talking about how to afford a wedding when you are already in a family with children – along with your typical day-to-day expenses and routine.
We agreed that while weddings are indeed a beautiful thing; the most important thing is building a strong, happy, and healthy marriage, especially for the children. Wouldn’t you agree?
Well, relationship expert, Rachael certainly does!
A Loving Marriage Brings Hope & Security to Your Kids – Minot
A loving marriage brings security to kids and teaches them not only how to treat their future romantic partner, but shows them what they should value in a mate. Being in a family that is filled with love, trust, mutual respect, and laughter can give children hope and security. The example you set in your marriage can affect your children for the rest of their lives.
Here are 8 ways your loving marriage brings security to your kids.
1. Teaches Relationship Skills
Marriage brings security to kids in their future relationships. The excellent example you set of love, respect, patience, and forgiveness with your partner has an immense effect on how your child behaves in their romantic relationships. Children who see their parents have fun together, laugh together, and show respect and consideration will heave healthier outlooks on romantic relationships. They will also likely strive to treat their mate with kindness, compassion, and respect.
For example, children of divorce are more likely to experience their own relationship dysfunction. Children of divorce are also more likely to get divorced in the future. Opposite of this, children who come from happy homes with loving parents are more likely to pursue a relationship similar to the one they witnessed growing up and have higher standards for themselves and their mates.
2. Sense of Security at Home
Knowing that you can come home to a vibrant, safe atmosphere is one of the most important things children need, especially during puberty. Living in a home where parents are constantly arguing can create a hostile atmosphere for children. This can make them feel insecure and unsure of what will happen next. This can lead to health issues, as well as stress, anxiety, and depression. Opposite of this, living in a home where both parents show respect and love, creates a sense of security for children. Knowing what to expect from the parental unit creates an unmatched happy home life.
Growing up in a stable, honest household also makes your child less suspicious of those around them. There is no undue reason to be paranoid or suspicious of their friends, family, and future romantic partners.
3. Less Likely to Deal with Abuse
Children who are living with both biological parents are less likely to suffer from emotional or physical abuse. One statistic reveals that a child who is living with a single mother is 14 times more likely to experience physical abuse. This likelihood goes up by 19 points if the mother is cohabiting with a man who is not the child’s biological father. On the other hand, a child who is living with happily married partners has a healthy upbringing free from serious physical child abuse.
4. Financial Stability and other Money Matters
A healthy marriage brings security to kids in another way: financial stability. When a couple shows financial soundness of mind they teach their children how to manage and share money. Both parents helping to pay the bills or manage household expenses is a great teaching tool for their children to learn from. Furthermore, statistics in the United States show that children who grow up in a two-parent working household are 28% less likely to live below the poverty line. This financial stability can lower stress and allow the child more opportunities for the future such as travel, special schools, and higher education.
5. Teaching Love
Marriage brings security to kids and teaches relationship skills. Building a strong marriage takes years of reaffirmed commitment and hard work. This can have enormous benefits on how your child treats their future partner. Regularly seeing signs of affection shown to both them and your marriage mate allows your child to grow up seeing that affection is natural. This builds self-esteem and makes your child less likely to experience emotional issues in the future.
Regularly being exposed to a loving, affectionate parental unit teaches them what to expect from a relationship, how to communicate effectively, and how to express themselves to others.
6. More Likely to Attend College
Children thrive when they grow up in secure households. The lack of turmoil and emotional stability in your marriage has allowed your child to be a large focus in your marriage. Likely you’ve encouraged them to pursue their dreams so that they too can become financially stable in the future.
Some studies suggest that when both the parents have college degrees, their children are more likely to go to college or university. Opposite of this and even after factoring in parental education and financial stability into the mix, research done at Cornell University shows that children who do not live with married parents are half as likely to attend higher education than those who live with both the biological parents. Surely this is a clear sign that your strong marriage can have a large effect on your child’s future.
7. Managing Stress and Emotional Issues
Children who do not grow up in a stable household are six times more likely to experience behavioral and emotional problems. Depression, feelings of abandonment, inability to express themselves, and anxiety are all side-effects of a broken or dysfunctional home life that children will carry into their futures. They are 90% more likely to have a lower grade point average and shockingly, 122% more likely to be expelled.
When children grow up in a stable, loving home, they learn discipline and consistency, build healthy moral values, communicate, and exhibit fewer emotional issues.
8. Hope for the Future
Your marriage brings security and hope to your children for the sheer fact that you succeeded in your relationship. You have a successful marriage full of love and happiness, build a home together, and create a family. You teach your children that while marriage is a lot of hard work, it is also worthy of every effort. This gives your children hope that they, too, will one day find a loving, stable mate to settle down with.
Author Bio:- Rachael Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.
