As we grow older and more mature, we tend to realize that life doesn’t get any easier, we just get better at handling it. For example, instead of feeling unsettled and anxious about our life decisions, we’re much more likely to take a proactive stance towards choosing what’s right for us, without apology.
As we continue to learn and grow, we also realize that although we may have changed for the better, we cannot make others change. We can encourage them, we can inspire them, but we cannot change them, no matter how much we love them; which can be challenging.
When thinking about how much we love someone, especially our partners, or the love we want to have for our future partners, it can be a good idea to consider what values in a prospective partner or your current partner that you consider being the most important.
Values are basic and fundamental beliefs that guide or motivate attitudes or actions. They help us to determine what is important to us. With this in mind, let’s continue.
Their Own Interests
Before we decide on how a person should conform to our own tastes, it’s healthy to appreciate people who are actualized to begin with. Relationships are better when both parties have their independent interests, capabilities, and self-respect.
This is why it’s so engaging when someone has a real passion for something and hopes to share it with you. Even if you don’t share that passion, the energy is infectious. WOuldn’t you agree?
Proactive Drive
The proactive drive it takes to get up in the morning, care for their career, their families, and their health is an essential element of running a successful relationship. The last thing you want is to feel a sense of tiresomeness and incapability based on no mutual effort.
Relationships shouldn’t be taken for granted. After all, we’re here on Earth to do things, to get the best out of our lives, and to share that with other people. Don’t be afraid to seek a little drive in those you wish to build a potential life with, then. It’s not selfish.
Honesty and Care
Honesty is essential. Someone telling you that they’re nervous to date is a good sign that they trust you enough with their vulnerabilities. The same goes for anything else personal that they tend to share with you open and upfront, such as if they take treatment for impotence or baldness, or if they have a difficult family. Handle that information with care because it goes a long way in a relationship.
Trust
Ultimately, those who keep their word are those who will remain loyal and provide integrity to all elements of a relationship. Some people in the modern-day can mistake trust as in being willing to give up all privacy entirely, such as allowing a jealous boyfriend or girlfriend to go through their phone every evening. That’s not trusting, that’s insecurity.
Trust means remembering someone’s important events, and admitting when mistakes are made. Trust also comes when mentioning when someone has flirted with them, and knowing you’re mature enough to handle it.
Trust also comes by being earned, such as talking to one another about your fears in the relationship or outcomes you should both work on. If you can do that, and find someone with those sets of priorities too, you’ll know you’re in good hands and may thrive in that person’s proximity.
But, if you break that trust, just remember things will never go back to being the same.
Final Thoughts
Values are basic and fundamental beliefs that guide or motivate attitudes or actions. With values being so important, it’s critical to identify what you should value in yourself, your partner, and the relationship overall. While this post only covers a few values, there are so many more to explore.
What’s something that you value in your relationship?
